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Can You Choose The Gender of Your Baby

After going through infertility and researching ways to get pregnant, I came across a few articles that stated we can choose the sex of our babies naturally. At the moment, I didn’t care. I just wanted a healthy baby whether it was a boy or a girl. After getting pregnant with my first, second (ENDED IN MISCARRIAGE), and the third baby, I knew what I was going to have before any ultrasound and gender test. All three times my predictions were correct. So, the answer to the question can you choose the gender of your baby is yes!

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Is there a difference between X sperm and Y sperm?

Before understanding ways to conceive a boy or a girl, you need to understand that female (X Chromosome) sperms and male (Y Chromosome) sperms are different. Y sperms are very fast; however, they don’t live for long since they are weak and vulnerable to their environment. X sperm are slow, but are strong and can live longer than Y sperm. 

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How to conceive a boy?

  • The most important factor is timing. If you want to conceive a boy, have sexual intercourse only near the time of ovulation so the Y sperms can reach the egg before the X sperms. Wait for the signs of ovulation like increased cervical mucus before doing the deed, or simply wait for a positive on an ovulation kit test. If you do the deed before ovulation, the Y sperms will die off and there will be more X sperms at the time of ovulation. 

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  • Food: Eat food high in sodium (like salt) and potassium (like bananas). These foods favor male sperm. 
  • Wearing loose underwear: Men should wear loose underwear because tight underwear causes the scrotums to heat up, and male sperm cannot live in that environment. 
  • Female Orgasm: Orgasms make the vagina alkaline which increases the possibility of Y sperms surviving. 
  • Sexual Position: The deeper the penetration, the best for Y sperms. Doggy style achieves this deep penetration. 

I only did one of these things in all three pregnancies, and it worked. I used ovulation kits to time my sexual intercourse, and it worked all three times. 

How to conceive a girl?

  • Timing: If you want to conceive a girl, have sexual intercourse 2-4 days before ovulation, and once you get a positive ovulation test or begin seeing the increased cervical mucus, do not have sexual intercourse. 
  • Food: Avoid foods high in potassium and sodium. Instead, eat foods high in calcium and magnesium. Also, eat foods or drink things high in acid like soda. This would make it harder for Y sperms to survive. 
  • Wear tight underwear: The men should wear tight underwear to make it harder for Y sperms to live.
  • Females should not orgasm. Orgasms make an environment suitable for Y sperm. We want the resilient X sperms to live and Y sperms to die off.
  • Sexual Position: Use missionary style and do not penetrate deeply. Don’t give the Y sperms a boost. 

I can say from experience that timing is how to choose the sex of your baby. Buy ovulation kits and decide which gender you want. It could be that simple. 

Other Ways – Can You Choose The Gender Of Your Baby (Gender Selection)

There is a medical technique called gender selection that helps you conceive a boy or a girl. PGS (Preimplantation Genetic Screening) is a test used to detect whether a fertilized egg has two X chromosomes (a girl) or has an XY chromosome (boy). You can then do IVF to place the embryo back in the mother. PGS costs about 5000 dollars. To learn more about this, click here.

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  1. This was so interesting. Thank you for sharing all this information. Now maybe I can talk my hubby into trying for a 4th. He wants another boy since we have 2 girls already.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Hahaha. I am sure you will get a boy soon!

  2. Interesting read. I’m not sure I believe it but I do like some good superstition!

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      It has worked with me; hopefully, it works for you or your friends.

  3. I am so grateful you’re talking about this and taking away some of the negative stigma surrounding infertility. It’s so hard for some people and they often suffer silently. Thank you for giving people the answers they are hoping for.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      I know what you mean about infertility. I went through it for two years and a half, and it was one of my worst times.

  4. Monica Simpson says:

    This is interesting. I suppose it’s worth a try but I’m not sure I totally believe we can actually choose this.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      It is hard to believe, but look at the science behind it. It won’t hurt to try. Thank you for reading!

  5. I’ve heard these before too and believe there is something to it.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      I am surprised you heard about it, many people didn’t know what I was talking about and found it very interesting.

  6. This is such an interesting read!

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Thank you for reading

  7. We are trying for a girl, but not really adamant about it! Thank you for sharing.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      I hope it works for you.

  8. Gervin Khan says:

    I really have an interesting read in this article. I think this article will help my friend, I will share this with her. Thank you!

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Thank you for sharing.

  9. Wow. This is new to me. Never knew I can naturally choose the sex of my baby. Wow.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Science is full of new information.

  10. What a great read! I had no idea this was a thing.

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Science surprises us every day.

  11. What a great read! I come to learn a lot. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Halimeh Salem says:

      Thank you for reading!

  12. Theresa says:

    Wow. This is everything I didn’t know but now feel the need to know ! Amazing information !! Thank you so much for this ! 🙏💜

  13. Awesome stuff here! Excited to hear more.

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